your First Time
What advice would You give to those looking to worship a Mistress for the first time?
First, be aware that a Mistress is not an escort or a prostitute; there are plenty of people offering these services elsewhere, so if that is what you are looking for DO NOT waste a Pro-Domme’s time by enquiring after Her services. It is insulting.
Do your research; use the Internet, magazines, etc and draw up a shortlist of Dominas who attract you and areas you are interested in. Find out what She takes pleasure in, what Her limits are and whether the two of you are likely to be compatible. Before you schedule a session make sure you are fully prepared to turn your fantasies into reality. Once the door to Her world shuts, reality stays outside.
Make sure you are precise and detailed in your communications; explain what you hope to gain from a session, what your interests are, etc. Don’t be embarrassed to discuss your fantasies and be totally honest; it can help give your Mistress an insight into your thoughts and develop a more trusting and mutually beneficial relationship.
Don’t be surprised if the tribute for a Pro-Domme seems expensive; all that equipment (plus outfits, shoes, boots, etc) doesn’t come cheap you know! People often think that professional Mistresses have appointments lined up back to back every day but this is simply not the case; at least not for Me. I limit My sessions & won’t play with just anyone, preferring to build a good relationship with My boys & therefore meaning a much better experience for U/us both. Sessions can often be mentally demanding as well as physically draining, so to try & jam in as many sessions as possible would mean a reduction of quality of play & My enjoyment (and in turn My sub’s enjoyment) – and I am a perfectionist so that simply won’t do!!!
Be mindful of your Mistress’ time; like any other professional Her time is valuable and She will not be impressed if you waste it. Do NOT make an appointment unless you are sure that you can attend and if you can’t then advise your Mistress at the earliest opportunity. Simply not turning up will not be accepted and will most likely ensure you are blacklisted and refused to book again.
Make sure that your Mistress conducts sessions according to “Safe, Sane & Consensual” practices and will agree a “safe word” for use during a session. I use the traffic light system. Green means – all ok, carry on. Amber – I am close to my limits but ok for now. Red – stop, please.
Be polite and respectful at all times!